Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT)
CBT is a recognised and well researched approach that looks at the way your thoughts influence your emotions and behaviours. You may like to keep a record of your emotions and thoughts and together I could help you explore these thoughts for their usefulness and whether they are realistic or overly pessimistic.
Together we could explore whether you tend to be self critical, overly pessimistic or fearful. Whether you tend to jump to negative conclusions or have unrealistically high expectations of yourself and others.
For anxieties/fears we might look at situations you avoid to help you slowly face those fears at a slow and gradual pace which is comfortable for you, while also helping you learn new coping skills to deal with your panic and anxiety.
Solution Focused Therapy
This therapy holds at its core a belief that you have strength and abilities which have helped you get through life up until now and despite hitting a difficult patch you have the ability to turn your life around.
Together in this therapy I could help you identify where you would like to get to in your life and how you would like things to be different and explore past times when you felt you coped better, no matter how trivial, and help identify your strengths so that we can build upon these skills.
It is also useful if you as a family want to avoid one person being blamed for the difficulties.
Or if others in the family has different views as to the solutions.
Or if you would like others in the family to understand the issues by attending the therapy all together.
I am happy to see families with children of varying ages and also different generations.
Mindfulness is the active attempt to bring the focus of the mind into the present moment and away from unhelpful, obsessive or distressing thoughts. When the mind drifts into thinking about the future it is often associated with feeling of uncertainty or anxiety. If the mind drifts back to the past it is associated with feelings of sadness, regret and remorse. If we can develop skills to keep the mind in the present we can work towards reducing or learning to tolerate difficult emotions.We can also learn to be observant and discerning about which thoughts we pay attention to and which thoughts we should move away from. In sessions I can explore mindfulness skills if I believe they would be helpful to you and help you to build your practice of these skills to make them a part of your daily life.
Couple Counselling Therapy
Either on your own, or with your partner, this therapy helps you identify area of difficulty such as communication, intimacy or sexual problems and explores ways of overcoming these problems. If I see you as a couple I would want to hear from both of you about your ideas and try to establish how you can find a way of living together, improving your relationship or if necessary separating in the most painless way possible.